Wife is ‘devastated’ as her husband insists on using her younger sister as a surrogate in the ‘conventional’ fashion.

A wife has been warned to reconsider her marriage after her husband suggested going the “traditional” route in making her sister their surrogate.

The wife, who is a Reddit user, got over 9,000 comments when she posted the troubling situation to the platform.

She explains in the post: “My husband and I have been struggling with infertility. We’ve tried some options, and right now, we’re looking into surrogacy. My sister agreed to do it, but my husband said he looked at how much time and money IVF would take and slowly started hinting that we take the traditional way.

“I was too shocked to even say anything, but he acted like what he said was not even that big of a deal. He explained that it’s just a quick way for us to have a baby and spare the money and time to use later.

“I’m both devastated over the fact that: 1.) he’d even entertain having sex with my sister just because he wants the easy way, and 2.) if I ever agree, despite feeling uncomfortable, then I will always carry this memory of how the baby was conceived.”

The poster went on to say that she is a hundred percent against the idea and is no longer comfortable with the surrogacy.

“I refused and shut his suggestion down hard. He’s now started guilting me, saying I don’t trust him, then saying I’m selfish for choosing to back out when he still wants to be a dad like he expected when he married me—basically blaming me for my infertility issues.

“I feel so devastated, and like my body is useless and has failed me… I just can’t express how I feel right now.”

She explained that her sister — four years younger than her and seven years younger than her husband — has no idea her husband suggested this and won’t be finding out.

“I’m not even considering his suggestion,” she explains in the comments.


Reddit users were horrified by her husband’s suggestion and told her that’s a red flag.

One user wrote: “OP should absolutely rethink her marriage. Husband wants to have sex with her sister for OP’s benefit? When a turkey baster will work fine?”

Another asked: “And what should happen if conception doesn’t happen on the first try? He’s gonna milk this option for as long as he can, all in the name of, ‘I’m doing this for our family so we can have a family.'”

“Using infertility as a guilt trip is not just a red flag; it’s a marriage death rattle,” another user wrote.


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